This post is not explicit in nature, but it does deal with sensitive topics and recent films and books, which, while popular, are explicit in their content. I will not link to any of the materials or any other potentially offensive sites.
The only links will be to safe articles dealing with subject. If you prefer to not read about these, I do not blame you. I wish this was not a topic that needed to be written about. If you believe this could be harmful to you to read about these things, feel free to read no further.
With that being said, however, this is a topic that is very much at the forefront of our culture. At least some Christians need to be aware of these trends and work to combat them, speaking biblical truth in a loving manner. That is my goal with this post.
Some will disagree with me on this. Some may disagree strongly. If that is you, then understand that my goal is not to condemn you, rob your life of entertainment or take away your happiness. My goal is to seek to examine these issues through the lens of the Gospel. If you are a follower of Christ, that should be your goal as well.
Magic Mike is drawing in millions of women to a movie with no discernible plot except that attractive men are taking off their clothes. The ubiquitous ads feature nothing more than random clips of muscular men in little clothing making promises to remove even more.
Fifty Shades of Grey, a purely sex based book, sky-rocketed to best-seller lists around the world after garnering sales from married women over 30, leading many to dub the trilogy: “Mommy Porn.”
It is no coincidence that women are being appealed to on a much more sexual level than ever before. This is less art driving culture, than it is art imitating life. I wrote before about emotional pornography that distorted women’s view of love and relationships, but it is now going well beyond the emotional variety.
Female use of pornography is on the rise, with no signs of slowing down. Women are the fastest growing demographic for many pornographers. At least one out of every four viewers of a pornographic website is female.
More and more women are becoming addicted to pornography, much like men, because of the ease at which it can be accessed on the internet. In short, women are being “pornified.”
Ladies, you need to end this now before it’s too late. One column I read at CNN (that I won’t link because of it’s pro-pornography perspective) said that a prominent researcher wanted to study the effects of pornography on young men and set out to find men in their 20’s who had never been exposed to pornography. He couldn’t find one.
Men who are seeking to love God, their wives and their families face a constant struggle to remain pure and stave off the advances of the cultural perversions through TV, movies and the internet. This is not a temptation that women need to add to their list.
Unfortunately, it has already begun. Women are using the same list of excuses that men have been using to explain away their distorted sexual appetite. With the primary one being, “It’s not that big of a deal.”
It’s just looking or it’s just reading, right? What’s the problem with seeing someone attractive on the screen without much clothes on or reading about things that you would never do in real life?
For starters, it changes the physical make-up of your brain. It trains your mind to be aroused by certain things, be they pictures on a screen or words in a book. Your brain releases chemicals during sexual arousal and becomes physiologically different with exposure to pornographic material (including things that may not be called pornography).
Secondly, how do you know what you see or read about will not affect your “real life” behavior? What David saw certainly pushed a man after God’s own heart to do things he never thought imaginable. After seeing Bathsheba bathing, he acted on what he saw, leading to adultery and even murder.
Statistics show that women are more likely than men to act in real life the behaviors they see portrayed, including multiple partners, casual sex and affairs. While men are primarily driven by visual stimulation, women are drawn through that into sexual chat rooms and other venues that tempt their sexual make-up.
Millions of women, through movies like Magic Mike and books like Fifty Shades of Grey, are opening their minds and their marriages up to the devastating effects of pornography.
Granted, there are much worse types of pornographic material, but that does not negate the fact that these two are any less. They objectify human beings created in God’s image and divorce (and I use that term specifically) sex and sex appeal from their proper God-given location.
This is not “getting back at men” for their use of pornography. It is diving headlong into deadly quicksand demonstrating that you can unintentionally harm your marriage, too. Nobody wins that game, because it’s not a game.
The problem so many have is that they are seeking “the line” of purity, asking the question, “How far can I go and still be OK?” That’s entirely the wrong question. How do you expect God to honor a perspective on life that seeks to be as far away from Him and His will as possible, but not too far?
Purity is not a line to chase. It is a position that Christians have been granted in and through Jesus. Our responsibility is to live in that purity, not to seek to push it as far as possible away from God.
Entertainment options like Magic Mike and Fifty Shades of Grey, at the very least, push the boundaries of purity, if not plow right through them. They aren’t leading you to love God or others, but merely love yourself and lust after others. That’s not who you were created to be. That’s not a path that will lead to real, lasting joy.
Next, I want to examine God’s design for sex, why that is best and why pornography is the exact opposite of every facet of the beautiful purpose God established for sexual relationships. (Read that here: 7 factors show pornography is bad because it’s not good enough.)
The primary idea is that, through use of pornography, we trade something superior and lasting (a healthy relationship with our spouse that brings glory to God) for something inferior and fading (an imaginary relationship with an object that hinders our growth).
Lastly, I want to explain the only solution to pornography, which is, as it is with most everything else, the Gospel. It is moving our affections from something that can never satisfy to the One who always satisfies.